Monday, October 13, 2014

Thanksgiving Ideas

Thanksgiving is the perfect time to reflect on everything you are thankful for.  Thanksgiving is all about sharing and being thankful.  No matter which cultural background you are from, anyone can take
part in the celebration.  Positivity and good spirit surrounds us during the season of Thanksgiving.   Thanksgiving 2014 in Canada is celebrated October 13th while the USA enjoys Thanksgiving November 27th.  This Thanksgiving season I want to share with you one way I am able to keep the positive feelings lasting all year around. 

Every once in a while I start a new list of everything in my life that I am thankful for.  You may be able to think of a few things in your head but it is more powerful to write your list down and add to it throughout the year.

At times where you feel you have nothing you will be surprised of how much you really have in your life when you actually write it all down.  When you see the words on the page you are able to see all the positive things that you have.  The more things I added to my list the more positive things I was able to attract in my life.  Every 3-4 months I would add a little bit to this list at a time.  This is something that has helped me get to the state I am at right now and helps give me direction to make this life even better.  Even if you are down about something in your life I am sure there is something to be thankful for!  Please leave a comment below about one thing you are thankful for so you can help spread this positivity around the world.

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Friday, October 10, 2014

6 Tips To Lose Weight

Here are 6 tips to lose weight.  Trying to get your body in shape is not always a very easy task and it will take a lot for you to get where you want to be. Look at what other beautiful people done to get in shape and then follow a few words of advice and you will learn which strategies will work best for you and your body.  Be patient because the road ahead will be extremely long and hard!  Here are some great tips to get you started on your weight loss journey and hopefully, have some words of encouragement for you that will give you the inspiration to continue.

  1.       Track your diet

Keeping track of what you are consuming is a great key to learning how to drop those pounds. Keep a food diary that shows what you've eaten and the calories consumed and you will easily start to see items that you can eliminate from your diet. Just a few simple changes to your daily intake, will add up to great weight loss.  I recommend using My Fitness Pal .  In a fast and busy world we live in it can be challenging to get into a habit of tracking everything you eat.  I have friends and family who have actively been tracking their diet using My Fitness Pal and they have achieved weight loss results.   My Fitness Pal is also great tool to keep track of how many calories you should be eating each day since it counts your calories for you.

  2.       Eat healthy snacks

Make your own snack packs and keep them with you to avoid hunger attacks. By keeping healthy, low calorie snacks around, you can avoid that stop at the vending machine. I enjoy healthy snacks that will keep you full without the excess calories such as raw almonds, veggies and fruit.

  3.       Convert a routine into a life-long process

Whatever weight-loss plan you assemble, make sure it is one you can stick with. Behind every goal to losing weight there is a second, implicit goal: Keeping the weight off. To do this, you need a routine that can be converted into a life-long process. Avoid extreme programs that will be unsustainable in the long run.  At moments in my life when I have lost motivation to work out and lost my habits of weekly work outs it became challenging to get the motivation back once the routine is lost.  To get back into the routine of working out regularly I would start by having light or shorter workout sessions then I physically was able to push myself harder.  Ending my light workouts at a moment where I felt I should keep going or push myself more, helped develop the motivation to get back into my weekly routine.

  4.       Eat slow

In the middle of every meal, take a short break. Sometimes your body may have a hard time determining when it is full. Make it a habit to stop eating for a bit during your meal. Take a moment to determine if you are actually hungry. Control your eating accordingly.

  5.       Sleep

Sleep is one of the most important things to get for weight loss. When you sleep, your body is able to reconstruct so that you can function at a normal level the next day. Aim for at least eight hours of sleep per day to give your body the chance to function properly.

  6.       Walk more

For most dieters, briskly walking can actually be better for you than running, especially if you are more than 50 pounds overweight. When you run as a heavy person, you're causing your joints damage and can damage your heart. By walking quickly, though, you're still burning calories while protecting your body.

While you should take weight loss very seriously to see results, do not overdo it because that can have a negative result. Just take your time and use the tips given here that will not be too difficult for you to follow.  Remember everyone has a different body and mind.  All of these tips may help you be successful but it is only up to you to discover which health strategies work best for 

Saturday, October 4, 2014

Real Self-Confidence

Do you want to have more real self-confidence in your life? Do you want to feel solid and fearless in everything you do, including relationships?

For the first time ever on Confidence Is Beautiful please welcome our guest writer James Bauer, Relationship Expert and Author of the book What Men Secretly Want .  He truly understands confidence and reveals how you can easily develop it with just this one simple technique. Here is his message below - Best Wishes!



Real Self-Confidence

Would you like to have real self-confidence? I'm talking about the kind of confidence that is rooted so deep it is literally unshakable. I'm talking about the kind of confidence you see in a mother when she needs to protect her infant. There's no self-doubt or bashfulness. Her actions flow from a place of certainty. Emotions may be present, but they do not run the show. Her mind remains resolutely focused on the goal. You can't pull rank on her and she doesn't care how big you are or what kind of car you drive.

What if you could have that kind of confidence when you approach the dating scene? Not the fierce part, but the confident, secure part. That kind of confidence comes from knowing with certainty what you want. That kind of certainty comes from having a solid plan and no hesitation to take action when you see the openings you know to look for.

Wouldn't it feel great? Wouldn't you love to have an unshakable sense of purpose, identity and direction when it comes to meeting and interacting with men? I'd like you to have that confidence and I have a few tips to move you in that direction. Always start with you.

If you are absolutely sure of what you want, you won't feel nervous about making relationship decisions. The more certain you become about what you want in a relationship and a man, the more confidence you will feel about setting boundaries, asking for what you want, or pursuing someone who might or might not reciprocate your interest.

Embrace "Failure"

Letting go of fear becomes easier when you accept "failure" as a valuable strategy. Dorothea Brande has been quoted for her famous statement on the best method to achieve success, "Act as though it is impossible to fail." Combine this with the wisdom of T.J. Watson, the president of IBM. "Would you like the formula for success?" Watson asks. "Double your rate of failure."

How can you succeed by failing more often? Many successful people swear by this method. If you are always cautious and terrified of mistakes, you don't try much and you don't learn much. People who are willing to fail embrace it and lose their fear of taking action in the process. When it comes to will fail some of the time. The only way to be highly confident when dating is to accept failure as a part of the dating process. Don't think of setbacks and letdowns as something terrible that needs to be controlled at all costs. Instead, embrace failure as something natural that is "okay." Embracing this simple shift in your belief system can dramatically increase your confidence.

Always Know Your BATNA

BATNA stands for "best alternative to negotiated agreement." It's a concept that has been extremely useful to me in many different areas of my life. Basically, it's about forming an unshakable sense of certainty when negotiating for what you want.

I wish it wasn't the case, but the unfortunate truth is men often need to be told how to behave in relationships. It's like we men are kind of wild. We're not tame beasts. We can love passionately, but sometimes we need a woman to compassionately explain what is and what is not okay, and to do so with the kind of certainty and steady gaze that lets us know she's telling us how it is rather than "discussing emotions."

Imagine you go to your landlord to complain about the broken stairway railing. Knowing your BATNA before you start the conversation gives you a tremendous advantage (and boosts your confidence). Let's say you have nowhere else to live and know you can't afford the other rental options in town. In that case, your best alternative to getting him to agree to fix that railing might be to ignore it for a while.

On the other hand, you may have plenty of options for other rental situations. In that case, your BATNA is clear. If, after negotiating for a few minutes, he does not agree to have it fixed on his dime by next Friday, you tell him you are moving out at the end of the month. Suddenly you have the upper hand in the negotiation. You can afford to push the issue, because if he doesn't eventually agree, you can pull out your BATNA. In this case, your BATNA is to threaten moving out, because you know it really is a better option to you than living with the broken banister.

In relationships, you should negotiate for what you want. Do so in a way that gives full respect to the other person's right to walk away from a relationship rather than agree to your terms. When you know what you want in a relationship, you can talk about it openly. When you have a BATNA about certain issues (like intimacy, moving in, commitment, or spending time together), you don't have to agonize about, "What if he gets mad and leaves me." Your confidence is high when you already worked out in your mind that you would be better off looking for someone more compatible if he doesn't agree on certain key issues that matter a lot to you.

Rely more on Attraction than Chasing

Most women have at least some degree of innate understanding of the factors that attract men. But this article is about SUPER confidence, not mediocre confidence. Let's say you've realized that your choice of mate is THE MOST IMPORTANT life decision you can make. Doesn't that mean you should try to understand your man as deeply as possible?

The problem is that men are mysterious, even to themselves. They often don't understand their own emotions and desires. This makes it rather difficult to know how to maximally attract them while sidestepping the landmines that can obliterate a relationship just when it was getting good.

If you'll allow me to be so bold, I would like to invite you to try something interesting. As a dating coach and a man with a mission to understand men's reactions to women, I have discovered something very, very valuable. It's an organizing principle that seems to change the dating game for those who learn about it. I call it the Respect Principle, and if you'd like to learn more about it, I've shared a free presentation on the topic below.

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Confidence comes naturally to those who have a strong sense of certainty. I want to support you as you develop confidence and the skills to attract quality men into your life. In this article I've given you what I believe to be some of the most universally helpful tips for building confidence for dating. But if you really want to take your confidence with men to the next level, spend a few more minutes to learn why the Respect Principle is something your man is deeply affected by, yet unable to put into words.

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Wishing you happiness in love and life,

James Bauer

What Men Secretly Want

Monday, September 29, 2014

Alcohol Abuse

Many short term and long term conditions can develop from alcohol abuse including heart disease, an increased risk of cancer, liver disease, disease of the reproductive system and conditions that affect the blood sugar levels.  Alcoholism can result in mental and social problems. The disease risks that can occur from alcoholism are highly concerning.  The sad thing is that these illnesses can all be prevented if alcohol consumption is reduced, or better still, stopped completely.

Alcohol can cause an inflammation of the heart, known as cardiomyopathy, and prevents the heart from working the way it should or even cause an irregular heart beat known as catrial fibrillation.  Even though a person may otherwise be healthy, this can occur and can be very serious.  Blood pressure or hypertension is very common in people who abuse alcohol.

Alcohol abusers are at a much higher risk of particularly developing liver cancer.  Other types of cancer that are common in relation to alcohol are digestive cancers and these can begin in the mouth, tongue, lips and can also occur in the oesophagus, colon and rectum.  Breast cancer is also at a higher risk in female alcoholics.

What is really scary is how the liver is the organ that flushes out toxins from the body, when alcohol is consumed in great quantities the liver struggles to keep up and as a result liver disease is very common in alcoholics.  There is a condition called steatosis or fatty liver than can occur and this can develop into the more serious conditions called steatohepatitis which is a serious inflammation of the liver.  Scarring of the liver can also occur which is known as cirrhosis and can result in a poor functioning liver.  These liver conditions can lead to kidney failure and also cancer of the liver, among other problems.

Drinking can be enjoyable but the cost of the enjoyment of alcohol can be quite high if you develop some of these serious conditions.  Although alcohol in small amounts is fine, overdoing it can have disastrous results, so think twice about whether to have that second or third drink each time.  By sharing this message with all your friends and family you can be the one to save a life!  Please share, have fun and drink responsibly.

                                                    What Men Secretly Want

Thursday, February 7, 2013

International Women's Day 2013

Last year Confidence Is Beautiful female readers posted a picture on Facebook & Twitter of themselves with no makeup on to give hope and inspiration to women everywhere to get in touch with their natural beauty. 

Ladies always ask me for tips and advice on how to walk in high heels.  Rule #1 for walking in high heels is confidence! 

I want you to think about one of your favorite pairs of stilettos in your closet.  Maybe you can think back to special occasions in your life when you wore those shoes.  Even a more casual event can become special by putting on a pair of jeans and throwing on stilettos.  I can think back to many occasions of this moment when I am getting ready for the night, makeup is done, hair is ready, slip that little dress on and then test drive those stiletto shoes in the mirror before heading out.  The shoe tops off the look and you know it will be a good night.  Maybe it is not that one pair of stilettos that brings back more and more memories but maybe multiple pairs. 

But no matter how much fun those stiletto nights were, no matter how confident you were, no matter how good you may or may not be at walking in those stilettos, every woman who wears high heels whether you admit it or not has been in pain while walking in stilettos at some point in life.  This International Women’s Day let us make our stiletto shoes a symbol of a women’s life.

For March 8th 2013 Women from all over the world will be posting a photo on Facebook and Twitter of them walking in high heels to symbolize a women’s life. #ConfidenceIsBeautiful

Men are invited to participate by either posting a photo of their women in her shoes or ladies if you want your man to know what it’s like to wear high heels this is your chance to put him in your shoes for once.